Too fat, too thin, too tall, too pretty
Too fat, too thin, too tall, too pretty, not street enough, not curvy enough, your bum isn’t round enough…. the list goes on.
Relying on external validation in an industry where success is often solely based on an individual’s appearance and Instagram following, is extremely dangerous. It’s easy to get caught up in the numbers game, whether that be on the scales, measurements, number of Instagram likes and followers. Particularly when social media platforms operate on a gamification basis and reward us for the more time we spend on the platform.
I started modelling at the age of 22, which is considered late for this industry. I often wonder what my self-esteem would be like today, if I had started modelling at a younger age, and didn’t have the support group like I do. I’m not going to deny that my mood and mindset hasn’t been temporarily impacted every time I received “constructive criticism”, like the comments above. Particularly when the “constructive criticism” is often presented as the magic resolution to getting more work, or securing a particular job.
Faced with the option of losing or gaining weight in the hope of more work, or being told that chopping off all of your hair and dying it peroxide blonde would result in a contract with a NYC agency (think Michelle Williams or Katy Perry) can really mess with your head! Given it’s your dream and primary source of income.
You could spend countless hours attempting to decode all the mixed messages you’re continuously receiving…..
We want you to be yourself, but a little more like this. Be outspoken, but not too outspoken. We like different, but not to different.
…..Or you could choose to embrace who you are (let’s be honest I ain’t getting any shorter!) and get clear about your values and boundaries.
Envision working with likeminded individuals that truly align with your values and take you for who you are. I mean just imagine how much more fulfilling your work days would be!
It all starts with you!
What are you willing to put up with? What pill are you willing to swallow? How do you want to show up?
In a society that profits from your self doubt, liking and believing in yourself is a rebellious act. @ Melbourne, Victoria, Australia